Mar 13 2012
Today I’ll be talking about Permission and Possibilities on The Ecstasy Hour on Hay House Radio at 5 pm Eastern/2 pm Pacific. Here’s a handy way to give yourself more sexual permission. Repeat each point until you feel you really believe you have that permission.
My Sexual Permission Slip
- I give myself permission to talk about sex.
- I give myself permission to talk about sex with the intention of learning something new, both about the person I’m talking to and about sex in general.
- I give myself permission to talk about sex as a safe, sane, and consensual act that brings health and pleasure to the world.
- I give myself permission to talk about sex as though it’s really important—as important as politics and elections and human rights and stopping global warming and ending poverty and curing cancer. Sex is that important.
- I give myself permission to ask questions, dig deep, and find the meaning of sex—for me.
- I give myself permission to laugh. Sex is funny and sexual energy running through my body will often produce giggles—for no reason—for no reason other than that it feels good.
- I give myself permission to separate sex—temporarily—from all the things it’s been glued to, like love, romance, and relationships. When I figure out what sex is—for me—then I can put it back together with things like love, romance, and relationships in combinations that are right for me.
- I give myself permission to do sex differently than my friends do, and to want different things from sex than my friends want.
- I give myself permission to keep sex just for myself.
- I give myself permission to not have sex at all.
- I give myself permission to figure out what my needs are before I have sex, when I am having sex and after I have had sex—and to get those needs met.
- I give myself permission to take a risk—not a health risk, but an emotional risk and even sometimes a physical risk. I give myself permission to let my soul get naked before my body does.
- I give myself permission to trust my instincts—even when (and perhaps especially when) other people don’t like it.
- I give myself permission to say no and not explain why. I give myself permission to say yes and not explain why.
- I give myself permission to talk about sex. (Yes, that’s right. Repeat it once more.)
Mar 01 2012
“Thinking Off” or How to Have a Breath and Energy Orgasm
If you are one of the many people who saw my segment, “Unusual Orgasms” on the Learning Channel’s Strange Sex show, welcome! Here are answers to some of your frequently asked questions:
1. I do not use the term “thinking off.”
“Thinking off” is the term the producers of the show wanted to use, but that term is much too limiting. Non-genitally based orgasms are achieved by different people in different ways, but very few people use only their minds to achieve these orgasms. The kind of orgasms you saw me and my workshop participants have on Strange Sex were achieved with a combination of breath, imagining (either by visualization or sensory feelings), sound, and squeezing the muscles of the pelvic floor. Sound complicated? It’s not really. It just takes a little practice.
2. How can I learn to “think off”?
Subscribe to my newsletter! You’ll get two free gifts, including “How To Have An Energy Orgasm”. You can more detailed instructions and additional ways to have a breath and energy orgasm in my book, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century. There is an entire section devoted to breath and energy orgasms. I am also in the process of recording a step-by-step CD guide to accompany the breath and energy orgasm section of the book. Sign up for my newsletter and you will be among the first to hear when it’s finished. I also teach the technique in many of my workshops. Check out my calendar of events to find out where I will be when.
3. I have spinal nerve damage and I can’t have regular orgasms. Can I have one with this technique?
Yes! The technique can also be used by people with erectile dysfunction, women who have had clitorectomies, and anyone with a physical condition that makes genital orgasms difficult or impossible.
4. I missed the show. Will it be on again?
Yes! It’s being rerun fairly regularly. Visit the Learning Channel for the schedule.
5. Where else can I learn about “thinking off”?
Watch this video of Barbara talking to Joy Behar about “thinking off.”
Questions? Want to host a breath and energy orgasm workshop in your town?
Contact me at email@example.com.