For the Un-Mothered on Mothers Day
American culture can turn a well-intentioned holiday into a painful knife twist to the soul for anyone who doesn’t fit within the idealized demographic of a perfect family. Nowhere is this more pervasive and obvious than in the ritual observances of Mother’s Day.
Have you ever stood in front of a long rack of Mother’s Day […]I Taught Caitlyn Jenner and Friends How to Have a Gender-Free Orgasm
I was invited by the cast and producers of Caitlyn Jenner’s GLAAD-Award-winning reality series I Am Cait to join them in New Orleans to teach them all how to have Gender-Free Orgasms—full-body ecstatic, orgasmic experiences that can be achieved with only breath and imagination. In the process of getting from taping to broadcast, I learned a valuable […]
Let’s Bust Some Myths
I read two great articles recently. They both bust myths about what sex “should” be and what it “shouldn’t.” In doing so, they throw open the doors for all the things sex could be.
One of the main reasons I wrote my book Ecstasy is Necessary was to help people understand they they weren’t broken or weird […]A Survey of How Trans Women, Trans Men and People of Non-Binary Gender Experience Their Genitals
Please help me make sex education more inclusive of trans bodies and trans sexualities. Please take my survey and/or invite others to take it. It’s important and it’s fun!
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/TRANSGEN
Who is invited to take this survey?
Anyone who identifies as a trans woman, trans man, non-binary, genderqueer, or in any way agender or gender non-conforming.
Why are you […]Here’s permission and encouragement to PLAY this week!
When I was a kid I LOVED this week between the holidays! It was the one non-summer week when I didn’t have to do anything for anyone else. No school, no lessons, no activities. Just long hours playing with my new toys and indulging in creative projects. As an adult I have had to relearn how […]
An Alternative to Columbus Day
I am very troubled by this weekend’s Columbus Day holiday. I have been out of the country the past few Octobers, so I have been able to avoid the feelings of shame and embarrassment I feel about living in a country that continues to dedicate a holiday to a man responsible for the enslavement, brutalization […]
How to Take an Erotic Risk
One of my favorite observations about great sex was made by sex therapist Jack Morin, who did extensive research on peak sexual experiences. Jack said that a peak sexual experience is the result of just the right combination of safety and risk. I couldn’t agree more.
Think about a really hot sexual experience you have had. What made […]Some erotic books and movies that aren’t totally cheesy
Someone sent in a great question for my free webinar, Urban Tantra: What’s In It For You on 22 July. It was: “Can you recommend some erotic books and movies that aren’t totally cheesy?”
Since this person gave me no idea of their erotic preferences, it was hard to answer. So I gave a shout out to […]
How to Have an Ecstatic Solstice
Stay in the present moment.
Don’t try so hard.
Stay in the present moment.
Drop your expectations and your judgments.
Stay in the present moment.
Surrender.
Stay in the present moment.
Be conscious.
Stay in the present moment.
Practice doing all of this throughout your holidays…
…in the present moment.Happy Solstice!
With Love and Ecstasy from Barbara Carrellas and the international Urban Tantra Team:
Hayley Caspers, Jazz […]Announcing 2015 Dates for the Urban Tantra Professional Training Program
I’m thrilled to announce the worldwide dates for 2015:
Copenhagen, Denmark 5-10 May 2015
Melbourne, Australia 15-20 September 2015
London, U.K. 20-25 October 2015Register now and you’ll receive the earliest of early-bird rates available.
In addition to all you’ll learn in the training program, you’ll receive ongoing benefits as part of the Urban Tantra Community, including:
• A free listing in […]