• Ecstatic Resilience

    It’s been One. Whole. Year. Four seasons have passed. Birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, weddings, and funerals have all gone uncelebrated, or celebrated with a handful of people carefully spaced two metres apart, or alone in front of a screen. We’re tired, worn down, depressed. Even the exceedingly creative ways we’ve discovered to gather together or create […]

  • Why Tantra Now?

    Lately I’ve noticed a significant increase in the number of people who contact me to learn about Tantra. Well you might think, is that really so odd? The media, and the culture at large, pretty much demand we focus on love and relationships in the weeks leading up to Valentines Day. But that has definitely […]

  • IMsLBB 2019 Keynote

    This is the keynote address I gave at the 2019 International Ms Leather/Bootblack weekend, 11 – 14 April 2019.
    I’d like to begin by acknowledging that we are standing on the ancestral lands of the Ohlone and Tamyen people. I want to pay respects to their elders past and present. Please take a moment to consider […]

  • Women, Sex & Power: A Symposium

    On Friday, 12 October, I’m hosting a live panel discussion on Women, Sex and Power at the New York Open Center.
    For this Symposium, I’ve called together a group of the most intelligent, radical, and informed experts working at the intersection of sexuality, politics, and power. Together, we’re going to explore the current climate of sexual […]

  • Happy Solstice

    The solstices are my favorite holidays, probably because they are celebrations of the sun—my favorite celestial body. I’m in New York right now and we are having the first really hot summer days of the many yet to come. The long days and the short nights energize my spirit and light a fire under my […]

  • Are Your Ready To Explore More?

    Where can you go to engage in deep, meaningful conversations about love, pleasure, bodies, pop culture, and empathy?

    I’m always looking for important and relevant events and conversations to share with you. This is one of those things!

    Explore More Summit is a free online conference that I adore. It’s a place where we can ask big […]

  • Serving a community in need…

    I created Urban Tantra to serve a community that was desperately in need. I wanted, or rather needed, to create a safe space for my brothers during the AIDS crisis so that they could, once again, experience an ecstatic expression of life in a safe and supportive container.

    It was through Tantra that I became revitalized […]