Coming in August 2026
A bold and healing guide to rediscovering ecstasy through sex, spirit, and radical self-acceptance
The Book of Ecstasy is a fully revised and expanded edition of my cult classic Ecstasy Is Necessary. I invite you to reclaim the word ecstasy as a deeply personal and accessible experience of joy, aliveness, and connection. This is a book for anyone who has ever felt left out of mainstream conversations about sex, pleasure, or identity—especially those seeking “something more” beyond the norm.
Updated with vital new content on boundaries, consent, and neurodiversity, The Book of Ecstasy also includes an important new chapter on what happens when ecstasy feels impossible—or too overwhelming to manage. I’m writing for those who are healing from trauma, navigating illness, or mourning the loss of their old sexual selves, while also naming and normalizing powerful energetic and emotional states that are often misunderstood.
This book offers you a fiercely inclusive and radically affirming path to ecstasy—for every body, in every season of life.
Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century is a book about consciousness cleverly disguised as a sex guide. It’s for everyone who would like to have a more sexual and spiritual ecstasy in their lives. Urban Tantra shows you how sacred sex can be practiced anywhere from ashrams to a lap dancing parlors—and in the time you actually have available in your busy life.
Urban Tantra is also the first queer, trans, and BDSM friendly Tantra book. Whether or not you have a partner and no matter what your age, sexual preferences or gender, you can begin to live a more joyful conscious life by learning how to practice joyful conscious sex. You can explore Urban Tantra step-by-step, as if attending your own private workshop, or you can jump in anywhere, trying out any of the 100+ exercises and techniques that appeal to you at the moment.
Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure offers couples new/ancient ways to enjoy new heights and depths of erotic pleasure. When you can slow down and immerse yourself completely in the experience of either giving or receiving, time ceases, trust increases, intimacy deepens, and you reprogram the way you imagine, breathe, gaze, move, taste, touch, and connect.
Breath and Energy Orgasms: A Guided Meditation.
This technique can be a deeply healing and enlightening sexual meditation, producing waves of tingly sexual pleasure that surge through every part of the body. You may experience profound relaxation and powerful insights about your life or life in general. You may feel reborn. You will almost certainly discover a deeply meaningful thread running through breath, emotion, energy, and pleasure.
Here it is! A 30-minute guided mediation with a musical score.
The Pleasure Principle: Meeting Your Inner Lover.
The Pleasure Principle is really very simple. It honors physical and sexual pleasure as sacred, as healing, as a way of life and as a path to spiritual growth. The Pleasure Principle is a process in which we can learn to love ourselves and create positive change in our lives and in the world around us.
Learn the many ways you can eroticize all of life all the time, including your home, your wardrobe, your body, food, exercise and meditation.
The Pleasure Principle: How to Become a Sexual Healer. The Pleasure Principle series is designed to show you how your sensuality and sexuality can be the key to greater health and happiness, how it can expand your spirituality and how sexual energy can be used as a powerful healing tool. Learn how your sexual energy can be the key to physical health, emotional well-being and spiritual transformation. A guided erotic healing meditation is included.
