• I’m Launching a Brand New Series of Workshops: The Urban Tantra Experience

    A New York Magazine pick for a perfect holiday gift!

    UTE Best Sally copy

    You told me what you wanted, and I listened!

    I’ve created a new series for all of you who asked for longer, more in-depth Urban Tantra workshops. The Urban Tantra Experience premieres in April at Eastover Estate and Retreat in Lenox, MA—a beautiful retreat center in the Berkshires in Western Massachusetts.

    Why look any further for that special holiday gift? What could be lovelier than a spring weekend of Tantra in the mountains?

    The Urban Tantra Experience: Breath and Touch
    Rejuvenate your relationship in the Berkshires. The Urban Tantra Experience is an approach to sacred sexuality that adapts and blends conscious sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM into a hot and healing brand of sex for the 21st century sensualist. Learn the secrets for giving and receiving a body-melting, mind-altering, sensual and erotic massage. You’ll also learn how conscious breath and energy work can transform touch into a deeply intimate ecstatic encounter. All genders and sexual preferences welcome.

    Register here:  www.urbantantraexperience.com

    17-18-19 April 2015
    Friday 7:00 pm – 9:30 pm
    Saturday 10 am – 5 pm
    Sunday 10 am – 3 pm

    $840 – $1200 (depending on choice of room) Includes food and lodging.

  • Conscious Sexuality and Gender

    Today we have a guest post by my friend and colleague, Artemisia de Vine, conscious sex worker, kink practitioner and author of the upcoming book, “Lessons from a Whore”. www.consciouseroticarts.com and www.consciouskink.com. Artemesia and other graduate members of the Urban Tantra® Professional Training Program frequently discuss the practical applications of seeing  gender beyond the binary of masculine/feminine. Here Artemesia shares her recent “Ah hah!” moment. I think it’s beautifully stated. Thanks, Artemesia!

    So excited that I was finally able to articulate something that is so important to me. Funny how I can instinctively know something for years but just can’t put it in words…so I get all frustrated and hot under the collar because I know it really matters but can’t communicate it properly, even to myself. I can just feel that damage is being done and it needs to change. Suddenly it is so simple and I can just say it.

    Worshipping the gender binaries of masculine and feminine encourages us all to project stereotypes onto each other rather than be present and truly see, experience and connect with ourselves and each other. Today I’m making the effort to approach each individual person as a unique being I know nothing about and allow them to unfold in front of me like the exquisite mystery they are.

    Yes there will likely be recognizable gendered patterns that emerge but the difference is, I will allow them to emerge naturally rather than assume they are there in the first place. That way I won’t miss the times when they are not there. I won’t be blind to the unique combination of characteristics in each person. I will unconsciously assume power dynamics less often…

    Feeling into myself in each moment and experiencing what is… What’s there beyond gendered boxes? The words “masculine” and “feminine” are being banned from my vocabulary today so I can see and be beyond them.