The following people have all brought new levels of consciousness, health and pleasure to the world. Their sites are filled with passion and wisdom. Many have online shops.

Transgender pioneer, performance artist, lecturer, workshop facilitator and the author of Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women And The Rest Of Us and My Gender Workbook. The sweetest gender radical I know.

The “Mother of Masturbation”, erotic artist, sex coach and author of Sex for One and Orgasms for Two. A legend.

Sex educator, writer and comedian who began her professional sex career behind the glass at a 42nd Street peepshow. She is funny, touching and wise.

Author (with Janet Hardy) of The Ethical Slut and Radical Ecstasy, among others. Dossie facilitates SM and Tantra workshops internationally and is a psychotherapist specializing in sexual minorities in San Francisco.

The woman who taught the world to do affirmations also founded Hay House, the premiere publisher of new thought books, audio tapes, and CD’s. Louise single-handedly moved human consciousness forward several evolutionary steps.

My first and favorite Tantra teacher. The author of Sacred Sex.

The founder of the Body Electric School and the New School of Erotic Touch. Visionary erotic bodyworker.

Tantrika who swims with dolphins, runs workshops and makes beautiful music in Maui with her partner, composer Raphael.

Legendary performance artist and one of my favorite teachers. Linda’s work investigates the relationship between art and life, with a focus on spiritual energy states. She creates intricate life-altering ceremonies, some of which last for seven or more years.

The father of the modern primitive movement, Fakir has explored spirituality in art, body modifications, SM, primitive body decoration and rituals for fifty years. One of the bravest people on the planet.

The author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, The Wisdom of Menopause and Mother-Daughter Wisdom: Creating a Legacy of Physical and Emotional Health. Internationally known for her empowering approach to women’s health and wellness. Wise, warm and very sex positive.

The funniest, smartest and sexiest writer, speaker, sex educator and activist I know. Author of Exhibitionism for the Shy and The Leather Daddy and the Femme, among many others. Carol is dedicated to making the world safe for sex.

Producer/Director of porn films from a women’s perspective. Also, author of How To Tell a Naked Man What To Do and creator of the Natural Contours line of vibrators.

The high priestess of tattooing.

The star of the legendary porn movie The Devil in Miss Jones. Her site offers a behind the scenes glimpse into the “Golden Age” of porn.

The high priestess of sex-as-art and alternative porn. Former prostitute and porn star turned artist, author, performance artist, filmmaker, sexologist and workshop facilitator. The ultimate sex positivist.

One of the brightest and busiest women in sex. Author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, plus countless columns, articles and other books. She also lectures, teaches, and produces sexy events.

Author and founder of Miss Vera’s Finishing School for Boys Who Want To Be Girls. Funny, wise and ever so stylish.

Australian “spansexual” activist, Norrie works on behalf of transgender and sex workers’ health and rights.

Tantra, Tao & Sacred Sex

A comprehensive site featuring articles about Tantra, techniques, workshop and teacher listings, personals and an online store.

The Kama Sutra Temple. A sister site to

Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson are the authors of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality and Tantra for Erotic Empowerment. Mark and Patricia combine a traditional lineage-based tantric approach with contemporary methods so that students can bring heightened awareness and an expanded capacity for pleasure into all aspects of everyday life.

Society for Human Sexuality is a social and educational organization whose purpose is to promote understanding and appreciation for the many forms of adult intimate relationships and consensual sexual expression. The site is hugely comprehensive and features a section on Tantra.

An excellent Tantra site from Mike Magee and associates. It has many pages with masses of reliable information, including good graphics, translations of key texts, and lots of Tantra links.

Tantraworks is a large, well-maintained site created by Nik Douglas, author of Sexual Secrets. Extensive data base, links and bibliography.

on sacred sex, tantra, karezza, and other forms of sex worship. This is a personal, non-commercial site.

Mantak Chia’s site. Information on Tao and Taoist sexuality, plus schedule of seminars, retreats and workshops with Mantak Chia.

Online store plus newsletters and list of teachers certified by Mantak Chia.


The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) is a not-for-profit organization which promotes sexual liberation for all adults, especially for people who enjoy consensual SM.

An educational site about BDSM. Many articles on a huge variety of topics, plus an excellent section on safety.

The Society of Janus is a nonprofit, volunteer run, San Francisco-based education & support organization devoted to the art of safe, consensual, and non-exploitative power exchange. Great site with lots of information.

Greenery Press publishes of many of the best books about BDSM and kinky sex, many with a strong spiritual aspect.

General Sexuality & Sexual Health

The Society for Human Sexuality’s huge web site devoted to acceptance and understanding of all sexual orientations and all consensual and safe sexual practices. Includes resources, local guides, essays, reviews, and FAQs.

The Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN) is a group of women, both domestic and international, with a focus on the sexual and reproductive health needs of women of color.

This site is a superb online resource for concise accurate information about the prevention, testing, diagnosis, management and treatment of STIs.

A very comprehensive HIV/AIDS resource site featuring 550 topics.

Dedicated to women’s sexual pleasure and health.

Dedicated to men’s sexuality and men’s sexual health. is an exploration and celebration of the many faces of the Feminine, offering articles on sex, mothering, intuition, sexuality, menstruation, shamanism, aging and more. There are interactive discussion forums, an ongoing book list, a sharing circle and links to a wide variety of other resources for women on the Internet.


QueerNet provides free online services for the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, queer, questioning and allies, HIV/AIDS, sexual and gender rights, and leather/SM communities, including mailing lists, web sites, and email hosting. Links to all sorts of queer organizations.

The Queer Resources Directory contains 25488 files about everything queer, worldwide. helps members of the LGBT community choose the right college, find LGBT-specific scholarships, and offers a number of support resources.

Trans Lifeline is a non-profit dedicated to the well being of transgender people. They run a hotline staffed by transgender people for transgender people. Trans Lifeline volunteers are ready to respond to whatever support needs members of the community might have. While their goal is to prevent self harm, they welcome the call of any transgender person in need and will connect them with services that can help them meet that need.

An ashram for the gay community that teaches Tantra.

A U.K.-based site dedicated to the personal, spiritual and sexual growth of gay and bisexual men through Tantra.

The 30 Best Colleges for LGBT Students

State Tax Filing Guidelines for same-sex couples.

Polyamory & Group Erotics

Club Relate is the masturbation swing club founded by Lynda Gayle and her husband Tom. Club Relate holds it’s parties in Florida, but the site contains covers masturbation in all its forms; watching, being watched, helping, photos, movies, books, stories, toys, talking, listening to others fantasies, parties and a forum for reader correspondence.

Loving More is a national organization and resource center for people who wish to live outside traditional monogamy. The organization also publishes Loving More Magazine the only magazine dedicated exclusively to topics involving multi-partner relating, The web site offers information about polyamory as well as community resources.

Franklin Veaux’s pages offer advice and guidance about every aspect of  about polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. A large, well-organized, extremely informative site. Highly recommended.

You can keyword search twelve years of this highly successful, smart, funny podcast, hosted by Cunning Minx and LustyGuy. They have talked about nearly every aspect of non-monogamy, yet each week reveal something new and entertaining.

This is a home page for the Usenet news group alt.polyamory. Resources, links, FAQ’s.

Polyamory advocate and educator Anita Wagner’s site offers a blog, links to poly-friendly therapists, articles on relationship skills and media resources.


The Coalition for Positive Sexuality is a grassroots direct-action volunteer group formed in the spring of 1992 by high school students and members of the ACT UP, Queer Nation, Emergency Clinic Defense Coalition, and No More Nice Girls. Site includes an online forum. is a site of the American Sexual Health Association (ASHA) offering information on sexual health for for teens and young adults. Their links page is an excellent resource.

Offering advice and information on sex, relationships, changing bodies and more.

Scarleteen provides information on all aspects of positive sexuality in a stylish, hip, fun manner. A great site.

A comprehensive page of links to great resources for LGBTQ+ teens.




ASLAN Leather
The ASLAN product line consists of high-quality dildo harnesses and BDSM play toys. They make toys to fit your fantasy. If you’re looking for leather with a personal touch and quality craftsmanship, ASLAN is a great place to go.

Claire Cavanah and Rachel Venning opened the first Babeland store in 1993 in response to the lack of women-friendly sex shops in Seattle. The store offers top-quality products, a pleasant place to shop, and, most of all, information and encouragement to people who want to explore their sexuality. The store’s popularity led to three more stores in New York plus a thriving and educational website.

Bliss For Women
Maureen Matthew’s Bliss For Women is Australia’s longest running sensuality boutique for women and their partners. Bliss for Women takes a holistic approach to women’s sexuality, offering books, products and services that inform, and bring pleasure, to all the senses. Bliss’s online store ships Australia wide.

Blowfish sells sex and sensuality products of every description, from the mild to the wild. Blowfish caters to all genders, persuasions, orientations, and varieties of relationships.

Come as You Are
CAYA is the world’s only worker-owned co-operative sex shop and has a fundamentally anticapitalist and feminist approach to sexual pleasure, health, and education. As a co-op, they don’t profit from your purchases, and they only stock products that they truly believe in.

America’s first condom store grew into a sex shop with lots more than just condoms. However, condoms are still their first priority. Condomania is a great source for condoms of every imaginable size, shape, and style.

Good Vibrations
Good Vibrations has been providing quality products, education, and information that promotes sexual health, pleasure, and empowerment for over three decades. They were the pioneers of the clean, well-lighted vibrator store, and they continue to provide a safe, welcoming, and nonjudgmental environment where customers can shop for sex toys, books, and movies, and attend workshops.

The Pleasure Chest
Since 1971, the Pleasure Chest has supported sexual growth and exploration by pioneering a sex-positive culture with an emphasis on education, enjoyment, and inclusivity. They offer a specialized shopping experience in a judgment-free environment, a huge variety of products, and the PleasurEd program: free weekly workshops open to anyone looking to expand their sexual education.

Pure Pleasure
Pure Pleasure’s mission is to provide a comfortable place where people can shop for sex toys as well as access resources to enhance sexual pleasure and well-being. They aim to promote sexual diversity, offering something for the pleasure that lives inside us all.

Self Serve
Self Serve is a sex-positive, health- and education-focused adult shop and resource center. They believe that sex is healthy and pleasure is good for you.

She Bop
She Bop is a Portland-based shop with a focus on female and queer-friendly sex accessories. Although the “she” is in their name, the store actually caters to all folks across the gender spectrum.

Smitten Kitten
The Smitten Kitten is a sex-positive space where everyone is welcome. At this store, they’re not just really enthusiastic about sex, they actively work to promote an inclusive, shame-free environment where it’s okay to talk about all kinds of consensual sex.

The Stockroom
If you want to explore your kinky side and not go broke, the Stockroom is here for you. The Stockroom is the original internet source for quality sex toys online and has been selling to tech-savvy fans of kink since 1990. They are now in their twenty-seventh year selling sex toys, bondage gear, and restraints online, catering to the whole spectrum, from the curious novice to the extreme BDSM player.

Stormy Leather
Stormy Leather is a leading manufacturer and retailer of distinctive, high-quality leather clothing and toys. For them, customer enjoyment is paramount. They continually strive for excellence in function, innovative design, and customer experience.

Sugar is a lesbian-owned, multi-gender-operated, for-profit, mission-driven sex toy store. They provide education and toys in a shame-free, sex-positive, fun environment to help people of all genders and orientations experience their own unique sexuality with shameless joy and passion.

A Woman’s Touch Sexuality Resource Center
A Woman’s Touch is a thriving woman-owned and -operated sexuality boutique. Along with the brick and mortar location and their online store, they also promote high-quality knowledge of sexual health, sexual education, and healthy pleasure.


Body Adornments

They offer inspiring body art for every budget and style.

This site sells gorgeous body piercing jewelry.

New York Adorned
Exquisite shops in Manhattan and Brooklyn offer piercing, tattoos, and henna, plus a unique collection of designer, ethnic and antique body jewelry.

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