Urban Tantra Workshops with Barbara Carrellas

My intention in my workshops is to give participants the experience of conscious and sacred sex, bringing joy and growth to their personal, sexual, and spiritual journeys. All genders and sexual orientations are welcome, as are singles, couples, and other relationship configurations.

The Urban Tantra Experience

The Urban Tantra Experience is an intensive weekend for spiritual seekers and erotic explorers who know that there is “something more” to sex and spirit than they have experienced. This event is perfect for those just starting out on their sacred sexual exploration as well as for daring, seasoned Tantrikas who want to take their practice to a deeper level.

The Urban Tantra Professional Training Program

The Urban Tantra Professional Training Program is much more than a training program. It is a community, a philosophy, and an inclusive sacred sexuality practice that supports both personal and professional goals. Whether you are a Tantrika, a pro domme, a daka/dakini, a sex therapist, a sex educator, an artist, a companion, or anyone else who uses or wants to use a more conscious approach to sexuality in your practice, your business, or your art, this program is for you.

Workshops and Private Sessions with Friends & Colleague

The following teachers and workshop leaders are Urban Tantra Professional Training Program team members, graduates, and allies.

Amanda Gay Love / Queer Hearted

Amanda and her collaborators offer a range of fabulous workshops and events, creating queer-centric, safe spaces for people of all genders to explore and enhance their eroticism and sexuality. Private coaching is also available for those wanting a tailor-made service.

Annie Sprinkle and Beth Stephens / Ecosex Education

Annie and Beth offer workshops, walking tours, lectures, and performances, inviting you to explore the Earth, Sky, and Sea as lovers.

Dr. Betty Martin

Betty travels the world sharing her groundbreaking model, the Wheel of Consent, to a spectrum of touch-based practitioners and professionals from sex workers to surrogates to massage and medical professionals. She offers private coaching, professional supervision, online courses, and her signature training for professionals—Like A Pro. And you can learn the Wheel of Consent from free videos on her website.

Body Electric

Body Electric is a school of holistic healing arts committed to exploring the healing potential of erotic energy. All sexual orientations are celebrated, and all spiritual paths are honored. There are classes for men and women, retreats, special events, and workshops in conscious BDSM.

Calle and Jennie Rehbinder

Calle and Jennie are leading Swedish sex educators and experts in sex, love, relationships, intimacy, BDSM, and Playful Tantra—devoted to spreading spiritual and sexual inspiration. They have been presenting workshops since 2004 for everyone and anyone who wants more out of life, love, sex, play, and pleasure.

Caroline Carrington / Jewel in the Lotus Coaching

Caroline is an internationally acclaimed Tantra educator inspiring people to live empowered lives around the world. She expands people’s experience of pleasure, intimacy, and connection through energy play and dynamic and erotic meditation. Caroline is LGBTQ+-friendly and is available for private sessions, experiential workshops, deeper-dive retreats, and her Tantra teacher training. Caroline is passionate about walking Tantra out of the bedroom and into the world.

Cyndi Darnell

Cyndi Darnell offers workshops and seminars on sexuality, orgasm, desire, libido, sexual communication, and integrating mindfulness with eroticism. Her private coaching sessions dive deep, developing the skills needed to create and sustain powerful erotic connections. She’s also a professional psychotherapist offering counseling (face to face and via Skype) for the full spectrum of human experience from sexuality and intimacy to relationships and grieving processes.

Eve Minax

Eve Minax aka Mistress Minax and dubbed “The Approachable Pervert” by her peers, delights in nurturing erotic explorers toward sustainable and sensational intimacy. Lead Staff Instructor at www.sm-arts.com, Minax compassionately facilitates learning and growth within the vast realm of Tantra, Kink, and BDSM. She also offers conferences, groups, and private and professional training.

Jaeleen Bennis / Bondassage

Jaeleen has designed programs, both online and in-person, that instruct individuals/couples and certifies practitioners/trainers around the world in a uniquely sensual and provocative method of bondage massage.

Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson

Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson, authors of the books The Essence of Tantric Sexuality and Erotic Empowerment: The Fundamentals of Tantric Sexuality, offer online and in-person Tantra workshops.


Midori teaches workshops and deep-dive intensives focusing on the sustainable, creative, and compassionate alternative sex, aka BDSM. She founded and leads ForteFemme women’s dominance intensive, among others. Private coaching programs help explore ethical power and leadership from the bedroom to the boardroom.

Rebecca Lowrie / Reawaken Your Mojo

Rebecca is an international authority on conscious sexuality, intimacy, and self-awareness. She offers private, one-to-one sessions and programs for professional men who are ready to step into their powerful masculine sexuality and to embody, experience, and express their full erotic potential.

Rowan Tinca Parkes / Making Love with God: The Radical Art of Sex Magic

These workshops and events bridge the artificial divides between sex and spirit, creativity and magic, ritual and orgy. Creatrix and Celebrant Rowan also offer one-to-one psychosexual coaching and tailor-made ceremonies for the queer community.

Seani Love / The School of Erotic Mysteries

Seani graduated from the Urban Tantra Professional Program in 2011 and has since gone on to win the prestigious title of Sex Worker of the Year (UK, 2015). He runs regular workshops on the healing and consciousness-expanding potential of sexuality, conscious kink, and BDSM across Europe and Australia.

Sexological Bodywork

Founded by Joseph Kramer, Sexological Bodywork classes and sessions include a variety of educational modalities such as breathwork, conscious movement, touch, erotic massage, pelvic release bodywork, scar tissue remediation, and Orgasmic Yoga coaching. Certification courses are offered worldwide.


Jason and Ingo Tantra are dedicated Tantra teachers with many years of experience in offering workshops, deep-dive residential weeks, and celebration of love festivals in the UK, United States, and other destinations worldwide. Their ultimate goal is your personal freedom and liberation to celebrate life as happy, ecstatic, and free men.

Visual Media & Videos

Here are some of my favorites. You can also view more Tantra, Tao, erotic massage and sacred sex videos here.

Anal Massage on a Woman

Learn the art of giving a rosebud massage and of penetrating gracefully, and of giving a woman simultaneous genital and anal stimulation. Practice the strokes taught by master teacher Chester Mainard and watch demonstrations by two real-life couples.

Anal Massage on a Man

Explore the pleasures of anal eroticism, including how to contact the “male G spot.” Learn the art of giving a rosebud massage, penetrating gracefully, and pleasuring the prostate. Practice the strokes taught by master teacher Chester Mainard and watch demonstrations by two real-life couples.

Annie Sprinkle’s Amazing World of Orgasm

Annie Sprinkle presents an eye-gasmic, educational, enlightening, and sexy documentary about the big O, featuring interviews with twenty-six orgasm experts, including Barbara Carrellas.

Annie Sprinkle’s Herstory of Porn

Annie Sprinkle guides you on a trip to seven different movie theaters, where she interacts with the best (and worst) clips of many of the 150-plus XXX movies that made her a one-of-a-kind star.

Best of Penis Massage

This stimulating collection offers the full spectrum of male genital massage: lovemaking with a partner, selfloving, erotic initiation, sex coaching, exploring altered states, and good old-fashioned pleasuring.

Best of Vulva Massage

This is a video anthology of erotic touch, featuring world-class sex educators, Tantra teachers, erotic bodyworkers, and orgasm coaches.

Breathing Your Body Erotic

An invitation to cultivate a relationship with breath as an inner lover, bringing pleasure and renewal to all parts of our being.

Evolutionary Masturbation: An Intimate Guide to the Male Orgasm

Joseph Kramer and four personal sex trainers demonstrate over twenty self-erotic massage techniques.

Fire in the Valley: Female Genital Massage

Annie Sprinkle and Joseph Kramer teach the genital massage strokes featured in the “The Erotic Awakening Massage for People with Pussies” chapter of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century.

Fire on the Mountain: Male Genital Massage

Joseph Kramer teaches the joys of giving and receiving the massage featured in the “The Erotic Awakening Massage for People with Penises” chapter of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century.

The Sluts and Goddesses Video Workshop or How to Be a Sex Goddess in 101 Easy Steps

A feminist porn classic, this video takes a humorous, absurd, heartfelt, and worshipful look at sex, featuring many erotic ways to stimulate sexual and sensual pleasure. It features Barbara Carrellas as a “transformation facilitator.”

Tantric Massage

This video teaches you how to give a full-body, warm oil, Swedish-Esalen style massage.

Transcendent Bodies: Erotic Awakening Massage for Trans and Gender Nonconforming People

Barbara Carrellas, founder of Urban Tantra, offers teaching on how to touch trans and gender nonconforming bodies in ways that are affirming and consentful.

People You'll Love

Kate Bornstein

Transgender pioneer, performance artist, lecturer, workshop facilitator and the author of Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women And The Rest Of Us and My Gender Workbook. The sweetest gender radical I know.

Betty Dodson, Ph.D.

The “Mother of Masturbation”, erotic artist, sex coach and author of Sex for One and Orgasms for Two. A legend.

Ducky Doolittle

Sex educator, writer and comedian who began her professional sex career behind the glass at a 42nd Street peepshow. She is funny, touching and wise.

Dossie Easton

Author (with Janet Hardy) of The Ethical Slut and Radical Ecstasy, among others. Dossie facilitates SM and Tantra workshops internationally and is a psychotherapist specializing in sexual minorities in San Francisco.

Louise L. Hay

The woman who taught the world to do affirmations also founded Hay House, the premiere publisher of new thought books, audio tapes, and CD’s. Louise single-handedly moved human consciousness forward several evolutionary steps.


My first  Tantra teacher. She taught me how to have breath and energygasms—and so much more. The author of Sacred Sex.

Joseph Kramer, Ph.D.

The founder of the Body Electric SchoolOrgasmic Yogaand the New School of Erotic Touch. Visionary erotic bodyworker.


Tantrika who swims with dolphins, runs workshops and makes beautiful music in Maui with her partner, composer Raphael.

Linda Montano

Legendary performance artist and one of my favorite teachers. Linda’s work investigates the relationship between art and life, with a focus on spiritual energy states. She creates intricate life-altering ceremonies, some of which last for seven or more years.

Fakir Musafar

The father of the modern primitive movement, Fakir has explored spirituality in art, body modifications, SM, primitive body decoration and rituals for fifty years. One of the bravest people on the planet.

Dr. Christiane Northrup

The author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, The Wisdom of Menopause and Mother-Daughter Wisdom: Creating a Legacy of Physical and Emotional Health. Internationally known for her empowering approach to women’s health and wellness. Wise, warm and very sex positive.

Dr. Carol Queen

The funniest, smartest and sexiest writer, speaker, sex educator and activist I know. Author of Exhibitionism for the Shy and The Leather Daddy and the Femme, among many others. Carol is dedicated to making the world safe for sex.

Pat Sinatra

The high priestess of tattooing.

Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D.

The high priestess of sex-as-art and alternative porn. Former prostitute and porn star turned artist, author, performance artist, filmmaker, sexologist and workshop facilitator. The ultimate sex positivist.

Tristan Taormino

One of the brightest and busiest women in sex. Author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, plus countless columns, articles and other books. She also lectures, teaches, and produces sexy events.

Veronica Vera

Author and founder of Miss Vera’s Finishing School for Boys Who Want To Be Girls. Funny, wise and ever so stylish.

norrie mAy welby

Australian “spansexual” activist, Norrie works on behalf of transgender and sex workers’ health and rights.

Tantra, Tao & Sacred Sex

Lucky Mojo: Essays and articles by Catherine Yronwode

Numerous articles about Tantra, yoga, karezza, and other forms of sex worship.

Shiva Shakti Mandalam: The Hindu Tantrik Homepage

An excellent Tantra site from Mike Magee and associates. It has many pages with masses of reliable information, including good graphics, translations of key texts, and lots of Tantra links.


Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson are the authors of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality and Tantra for Erotic Empowerment. Mark and Patricia combine a traditional lineage-based tantric approach with contemporary methods so that students can bring heightened awareness and an expanded capacity for pleasure into all aspects of everyday life.


Tantraworks is a large, well-maintained site created by Nik Douglas, author of Sexual Secrets. Extensive data base, links and bibliography.


Mantak Chia’s site. Information on Tao and Taoist sexuality, plus schedule of seminars, retreats and workshops with Mantak Chia.


BDSM Events

Calendar of events.

The Eulenspiegel Society

The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) is a not-for-profit organization which promotes sexual liberation for all adults, especially for people who enjoy consensual SM.


FetLife is the largest social network for the BDSM, fetish and kinky community.

Greenery Press

Greenery Press publishes of many of the best books about BDSM and kinky sex.

Kink Academy

Kink Academy is a comprehensive library of sex-ed videos for adventurous, consenting adults.

Leather N Roses

An educational site about BDSM. Many articles on a huge variety of topics, plus an excellent section on safety.

National Coalition of Sexual Freedom

The NCSF aims to advance the rights of, and advocate for, consenting adults in the BDSM Leather-Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities.

The Society of Janus

The Society of Janus is a nonprofit, volunteer run, San Francisco-based education & support organization devoted to the art of safe, consensual, and non-exploitative power exchange. Great site with lots of information.

General Sexuality & Sexual Health

The Society for Human Sexuality

The Society for Human Sexuality’s huge web site devoted to acceptance and understanding of all sexual orientations and all consensual and safe sexual practices. Includes resources, local guides, essays, reviews, and FAQs.

Women of Color Sexual Health Network

The Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN) is a group of women, both domestic and international, with a focus on the sexual and reproductive health needs of women of color.

Australian STI Management Guidelines

This site is a superb online resource for concise accurate information about the prevention, testing, diagnosis, management and treatment of STIs.


A very comprehensive HIV/AIDS resource site featuring 550 topics.


Dedicated to women’s sexual pleasure and health.


Dedicated to men’s sexuality and men’s sexual health.


Yoni.com is an exploration and celebration of the many faces of the Feminine, offering articles on sex, mothering, intuition, sexuality, menstruation, shamanism, aging and more. There are interactive discussion forums, an ongoing book list, a sharing circle and links to a wide variety of other resources for women on the Internet.


Gay Tantra

An ashram for the gay community that teaches Tantra.


Keshet is a national organization that works for full LGBTQ equality and inclusion in Jewish life. Led and supported by LGBTQ Jews and straight allies, Keshet cultivates the spirit and practice of inclusion in all parts of the Jewish community.


QueerNet provides free online services for the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, queer, questioning and allies, HIV/AIDS, sexual and gender rights, and leather/SM communities, including mailing lists, web sites, and email hosting. Links to all sorts of queer organizations.

Queer Resources Directory

The Queer Resources Directory contains 25488 files about everything queer, worldwide.

Safer Sex for Trans Bodies

A comprehensive sexual health guide for transgender and gender expansive people and their partners. The guide is written by and for members of the transgender community and offers them a long-overdue resource on potentially life-saving and affirming practices, from respectful terminology and definitions to helpful practices for sexual health following transition-related care.

Tantra for Gay Men

A Tantra School dedicated to the personal, spiritual and sexual growth of gay and bisexual men through Tantra. Tantra for Gay Men offers workshops, festivals and private sessions in the U.K. and the U.S. plus retreats worldwide.

Trans Lifeline

Trans Lifeline is a non-profit dedicated to the well being of transgender people. They run a hotline staffed by transgender people for transgender people. Trans Lifeline volunteers are ready to respond to whatever support needs members of the community might have. While their goal is to prevent self harm, they welcome the call of any transgender person in need and will connect them with services that can help them meet that need.

Best Colleges.com

The 30 Best Colleges for LGBT Students

Polyamory & Group Erotics

Club Relate

Club Relate is the masturbation swing club founded by Lynda Gayle and her husband Tom. Club Relate holds it’s parties in Florida, but the site contains covers masturbation in all its forms; watching, being watched, helping, photos, movies, books, stories, toys, talking, listening to others fantasies, parties and a forum for reader correspondence.

Loving More

Loving More is a national organization and resource center for people who wish to live outside traditional monogamy. The organization also publishes Loving More Magazine the only magazine dedicated exclusively to topics involving multi-partner relating, The web site offers information about polyamory as well as community resources.

More Than Two

Franklin Veaux’s pages offer advice and guidance about every aspect of  about polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. A large, well-organized, extremely informative site. Highly recommended.

PolyWeekly Podcast

You can keyword search twelve years of this highly successful, smart, funny podcast, hosted by Cunning Minx and LustyGuy. They have talked about nearly every aspect of non-monogamy, yet each week reveal something new and entertaining.


This is a home page for the Usenet news group alt.polyamory. Resources, links, FAQ’s.

Practical Polyamory

Polyamory advocate and educator Anita Wagner’s site offers a blog, links to poly-friendly therapists, articles on relationship skills and media resources.


The Coalition for Positive Sexuality

The Coalition for Positive Sexuality is a grassroots direct-action volunteer group formed in the spring of 1992 by high school students and members of the ACT UP, Queer Nation, Emergency Clinic Defense Coalition, and No More Nice Girls. Site includes an online forum.

I Wanna Know

iwannaknow.org is a site of the American Sexual Health Association (ASHA) offering information on sexual health for for teens and young adults. Their links page is an excellent resource.

Planned Parenthood for Teens

Offering advice and information on sex, relationships, changing bodies and more.


Scarleteen provides information on all aspects of positive sexuality in a stylish, hip, fun manner. A great site.

LGBTQ Sexual Health Info

A comprehensive page of links to great resources for LGBTQ+ teens.


ASLAN Leather

The ASLAN product line consists of high-quality dildo harnesses and BDSM play toys. They make toys to fit your fantasy. If you’re looking for leather with a personal touch and quality craftsmanship, ASLAN is a great place to go.


Claire Cavanah and Rachel Venning opened the first Babeland store in 1993 in response to the lack of women-friendly sex shops in Seattle. The store offers top-quality products, a pleasant place to shop, and, most of all, information and encouragement to people who want to explore their sexuality. The store’s popularity led to three more stores in New York plus a thriving and educational website.

Bliss For Women

Maureen Matthew’s Bliss For Women is Australia’s longest running sensuality boutique for women and their partners. Bliss for Women takes a holistic approach to women’s sexuality, offering books, products and services that inform, and bring pleasure, to all the senses. Bliss’s online store ships Australia wide.


Blowfish sells sex and sensuality products of every description, from the mild to the wild. Blowfish caters to all genders, persuasions, orientations, and varieties of relationships.

Come as You Are

CAYA is the world’s only worker-owned co-operative sex shop and has a fundamentally anticapitalist and feminist approach to sexual pleasure, health, and education. As a co-op, they don’t profit from your purchases, and they only stock products that they truly believe in.


America’s first condom store grew into a sex shop with lots more than just condoms. However, condoms are still their first priority. Condomania is a great source for condoms of every imaginable size, shape, and style.

Good Vibrations

Good Vibrations has been providing quality products, education, and information that promotes sexual health, pleasure, and empowerment for over three decades. They were the pioneers of the clean, well-lighted vibrator store, and they continue to provide a safe, welcoming, and nonjudgmental environment where customers can shop for sex toys, books, and movies, and attend workshops.

The Pleasure Chest

Since 1971, the Pleasure Chest has supported sexual growth and exploration by pioneering a sex-positive culture with an emphasis on education, enjoyment, and inclusivity. They offer a specialized shopping experience in a judgment-free environment, a huge variety of products, and the PleasurEd program: free weekly workshops open to anyone looking to expand their sexual education.

Pure Pleasure

Pure Pleasure’s mission is to provide a comfortable place where people can shop for sex toys as well as access resources to enhance sexual pleasure and well-being. They aim to promote sexual diversity, offering something for the pleasure that lives inside us all.

Self Serve

Self Serve is a sex-positive, health- and education-focused adult shop and resource center. They believe that sex is healthy and pleasure is good for you.

She Bop

She Bop is a Portland-based shop with a focus on female and queer-friendly sex accessories. Although the “she” is in their name, the store actually caters to all folks across the gender spectrum.

Smitten Kitten

The Smitten Kitten is a sex-positive space where everyone is welcome. At this store, they’re not just really enthusiastic about sex, they actively work to promote an inclusive, shame-free environment where it’s okay to talk about all kinds of consensual sex.

The Stockroom

If you want to explore your kinky side and not go broke, the Stockroom is here for you. The Stockroom is the original internet source for quality sex toys online and has been selling to tech-savvy fans of kink since 1990. They are now in their twenty-seventh year selling sex toys, bondage gear, and restraints online, catering to the whole spectrum, from the curious novice to the extreme BDSM player.

Stormy Leather

Stormy Leather is a leading manufacturer and retailer of distinctive, high-quality leather clothing and toys. For them, customer enjoyment is paramount. They continually strive for excellence in function, innovative design, and customer experience.


Sugar is a lesbian-owned, multi-gender-operated, for-profit, mission-driven sex toy store. They provide education and toys in a shame-free, sex-positive, fun environment to help people of all genders and orientations experience their own unique sexuality with shameless joy and passion.

A Woman’s Touch Sexuality Resource Center

A Woman’s Touch is a thriving woman-owned and -operated sexuality boutique. Along with the brick and mortar location and their online store, they also promote high-quality knowledge of sexual health, sexual education, and healthy pleasure.

Body Adornments


They offer inspiring body art for every budget and style.


This site sells gorgeous body piercing jewelry.

New York Adorned

Exquisite shops in Manhattan and Brooklyn offer piercing, tattoos, and henna, plus a unique collection of designer, ethnic and antique body jewelry.

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Urban Tantra® Professional Training Program

The Urban Tantra® Professional Training Program is much more than a training program. It is a Urban-Tantra community, a philosophy, and an inclusive sacred sexuality practice that supports both personal and professional goals

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