The following people have all brought new levels of consciousness, health and pleasure to the world. Their sites are filled with passion and wisdom. Many have online shops.

Kate Bornstein
Transgender pioneer, performance artist, lecturer, workshop facilitator and the author of Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women And The Rest Of Us and My Gender Workbook. The sweetest gender radical I know.

Betty Dodson, Ph.D.
The “Mother of Masturbation”, erotic artist, sex coach and author of Sex for One and Orgasms for Two. A legend.

Ducky Doolittle
Sex educator, writer and comedian who began her professional sex career behind the glass at a 42nd Street peepshow. She is funny, touching and wise.

Dossie Easton
Author (with Janet Hardy) of The Ethical Slut and Radical Ecstasy, among others. Dossie facilitates SM and Tantra workshops internationally and is a psychotherapist specializing in sexual minorities in San Francisco.

Louise L. Hay
The woman who taught the world to do affirmations also founded Hay House, the premiere publisher of new thought books, audio tapes, and CD’s. Louise single-handedly moved human consciousness forward several evolutionary steps.

My first and favorite Tantra teacher. The author of Sacred Sex.

Joseph Kramer, Ph.D.
The founder of the Body Electric School and the New School of Erotic Touch. Visionary erotic bodyworker.

Tantrika who swims with dolphins, runs workshops and makes beautiful music in Maui with her partner, composer Raphael.

Linda Montano
Legendary performance artist and one of my favorite teachers. Linda’s work investigates the relationship between art and life, with a focus on spiritual energy states. She creates intricate life-altering ceremonies, some of which last for seven or more years.

Fakir Musafar
The father of the modern primitive movement, Fakir has explored spirituality in art, body modifications, SM, primitive body decoration and rituals for fifty years. One of the bravest people on the planet.

Dr. Christiane Northrup
The author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, The Wisdom of Menopause and Mother-Daughter Wisdom: Creating a Legacy of Physical and Emotional Health. Internationally known for her empowering approach to women’s health and wellness. Wise, warm and very sex positive.

Dr. Carol Queen
The funniest, smartest and sexiest writer, speaker, sex educator and activist I know. Author of Exhibitionism for the Shy and The Leather Daddy and the Femme, among many others. Carol is dedicated to making the world safe for sex.

Candida Royalle
Producer/Director of porn films from a women’s perspective. Also, author of How To Tell a Naked Man What To Do and creator of the Natural Contours line of vibrators.

Pat Sinatra
The high priestess of tattooing.

Georgina Spelvin
The star of the legendary porn movie The Devil in Miss Jones. Her site offers a behind the scenes glimpse into the "Golden Age" of porn.

Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D.
The high priestess of sex-as-art and alternative porn. Former prostitute and porn star turned artist, author, performance artist, filmmaker, sexologist and workshop facilitator. The ultimate sex positivist.

Tristan Taormino
One of the brightest and busiest women in sex. Author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, plus countless columns, articles and other books. She also lectures, teaches, and produces sexy events.

Veronica Vera
Author and founder of Miss Vera’s Finishing School for Boys Who Want To Be Girls. Funny, wise and ever so stylish.

norrie mAy welby
Australian “spansexual” activist, Norrie works on behalf of transgender and sex workers’ health and rights.

Tantra, Tao & Sacred Sex
A comprehensive site featuring articles about Tantra, techniques, workshop and teacher listings, personals and an online store
The Kama Sutra Temple. A sister site to
Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson are the authors of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality and Tantra for Erotic Empowerment. Mark and Patricia combine a traditional lineage-based tantric approach with contemporary methods so that students can bring heightened awareness and an expanded capacity for pleasure into all aspects of everyday life.
Society for Human Sexuality is a social and educational organization whose purpose is to promote understanding and appreciation for the many forms of adult intimate relationships and consensual sexual expression. The site is hugely comprehensive and features a section on Tantra.

Shiva Shakti Mandalam: The Hindu Tantrik Homepage
An excellent Tantra site from Mike Magee and associates. It has many pages with masses of reliable information, including good graphics, translations of key texts, and lots of Tantra links.
Tantraworks is a large, well-maintained site created by Nik Douglas, author of Sexual Secrets. Extensive data base, links and bibliography.

Essays and articles by Catherine Yronwode...
on sacred sex, tantra, karezza, and other forms of sex worship. This is a personal, non-commercial site.
Mantak Chia’s site. Information on Tao and Taoist sexuality, plus schedule of seminars, retreats and workshops with Mantak Chia.

Healing Tao USA
Online store plus newsletters and list of teachers certified by Mantak Chia.


The Eulenspiegel Society
The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) is a not-for-profit organization which promotes sexual liberation for all adults, especially for people who enjoy consensual SM.

Leather N Roses
An educational site about BDSM. Many articles on a huge variety of topics, plus an excellent section on safety.

The Society of Janus
The Society of Janus is a nonprofit, volunteer run, San Francisco-based education & support organization devoted to the art of safe, consensual, and non-exploitative power exchange. Great site with lots of information.

Greenery Press
Greenery Press publishes of many of the best books about BDSM and kinky sex, many with a strong spiritual aspect.

General Sexuality & Sexual Health

The Society for Human Sexuality
The Society for Human Sexuality’s huge web site devoted to acceptance and understanding of all sexual orientations and all consensual and safe sexual practices. Includes resources, local guides, essays, reviews, and FAQs.

Women of Color Sexual Health Network The Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN) is a group of women, both domestic and international, with a focus on the sexual and reproductive health needs of women of color.

Australian STI Management Guidelines
This site is a superb online resource for concise accurate information about the prevention, testing, diagnosis, management and treatment of STIs.
A very comprehensive HIV/AIDS resource site featuring 550 topics.
Dedicated to women’s sexual pleasure and health.
Dedicated to men’s sexuality and men’s sexual health. is an exploration and celebration of the many faces of the Feminine, offering articles on sex, mothering, intuition, sexuality, menstruation, shamanism, aging and more. There are interactive discussion forums, an ongoing book list, a sharing circle and links to a wide variety of other resources for women on the Internet.


QueerNet provides free online services for the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, queer, questioning and allies, HIV/AIDS, sexual and gender rights, and leather/SM communities, including mailing lists, web sites, and email hosting. Links to all sorts of queer organizations.

Queer Resources Directory
The Queer Resources Directory contains 25488 files about everything queer, worldwide. helps members of the LGBT community choose the right college, find LGBT-specific scholarships, and offers a number of support resources.

Trans Lifeline
Trans Lifeline is a non-profit dedicated to the well being of transgender people. They run a hotline staffed by transgender people for transgender people. Trans Lifeline volunteers are ready to respond to whatever support needs members of the community might have. While their goal is to prevent self harm, they welcome the call of any transgender person in need and will connect them with services that can help them meet that need.

Gay Tantra
An ashram for the gay community that teaches Tantra.

Tantra For Gay Men
A U.K.-based site dedicated to the personal, spiritual and sexual growth of gay and bisexual men through Tantra.

The 30 Best Colleges for LGBT Students
State Tax Filing Guidelines for same-sex couples.

Polyamory & Group Erotics

Practical Polyamory
Polyamory advocate and educator Anita Wagner's site offers a blog, links to poly-friendly
therapists, articles on relationship skills and media resources.

Loving More
Loving More is a national organization and resource center for people who wish to live outside traditional monogamy. The organization also publishes Loving More Magazine the only magazine dedicated exclusively to topics involving multi-partner relating, The web site offers information about polyamory as well as community resources.
This is a home page for the Usenet news group alt.polyamory. Resources, links, FAQ’s.

Club Relate
Club Relate is the masturbation swing club founded by Lynda Gayle and her husband Tom. Club Relate holds it’s parties in Florida, but the site contains covers masturbation in all its forms; watching, being watched, helping, photos, movies, books, stories, toys, talking, listening to others fantasies, parties and a forum for reader correspondence.
A very good introductory article about swinging, followed by links for more information.


The Coalition for Positive Sexuality
The Coalition for Positive Sexuality is a grassroots direct-action volunteer group formed in the spring of 1992 by high school students and members of the ACT UP, Queer Nation, Emergency Clinic Defense Coalition, and No More Nice Girls. Site includes an online forum.

Scarleteen provides information on all aspects of positive sexuality in a stylish, hip, fun manner. A great site.

Youth Resource
Youth Resource is created by and for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and questioning (GLBTQ) young people 13 to 24 years old. Offers support, community, resources, and peer-to-peer education about sex and sexual health.


One of the best sex shops anywhere. With retail stores in New York and Seattle and Los Angeles, their web site is more than just a store. It features a huge reference and sex-help section.

Sex and sensuality products of every description from the mild to the wild, Blowfish caters to all genders, persuasions, orientations and varieties of relationships.

Come As You Are
Canada's first co-operatively-run sex toy, book and video store approaches sexuality with respect, openness, humor, communication and responsibility. They are service and community oriented; accessible and disability-positive.

America’s first condom store has grown into a sex shop with lots more than just condoms. However, condoms are still their first priority. Condomania is a good source for TheyFit condoms, the world's first sized-to-fit condom line in 55 custom-fit sizes.

Good Vibrations
Not just a huge online and retail sex shop, but a legendary worker-owned sex positive cooperative enterprise providing all manner and description of sex information, toys, videos, DVDs, books and community events.

Grand Opening
Proprietrix Kim Airs runs two beautiful and creative sex-positive emporiums in Boston featuring online ordering and in-store classes and special events.

Natural Contours
Candida Royalle’s ergonomically designed three-speed vibrators are beautiful, quiet and sexy.

Stormy Leather
San Francisco’s leading manufacturer and retailer of leather lingerie, corsets, street wear and adult toys. The retail store also hosts classes and art shows.

A Woman's Touch
A Madison, Wisconsin sex-positive store and site "celebrating romance and sensuality from a woman's perspective".

Bliss For Women
Maureen Matthew’s Bliss For Women is Australia's premier sensuality boutique for women and their partners. Located in downtown Melbourne, Bliss’s online store ships Australia wide.

Body Adornments

Gorgeous body piercing jewelry.

“The largest catalog of body jewelry in the universe.” With over 70,000 items to choose from this claim certainly could be true.

New York Adorned
Exquisite shops in Manhattan and Brooklyn offer piercing, tattoos, and henna, plus a unique collection of designer, ethnic and antique body jewelry.